Stop waiting for the applause from your friends – at Gaia and in every facet of your life. They don't care. This is your journey.
Stop waiting for the camera shot and the “good job.” In fact, if someone says “good job” to you, just ignore them. You don’t need “good job” you're not a trained dog— you need to perform better. You need to work harder. And in order to do something well, you need to know what you did wrong. So don;t pussy out on being told you did a bad job. Ask for criticism - IMPROVE.
So, when you’re done with a lift, or a race, or a presentation, or a paper, or even putting your little kids to bed, don’t sit there and wait for someone to tell you that you did a good job. That’s only going to help your ego, not your future performance. It's not life.
Look for people who can help. We all need helpers. The best ones aren’t the coaches waiting with a “You did great!” when your lift looked like sh**. Or the ones who beat you down, no matter what, and never have a good word to say.
The best coaches look at us with a tilted head and a smile. They fix us with a steely gaze and give us the truth, as they see it — what you did right, what you did wrong, what you need to work on for next time. They love us enough to tell us how we can improve. Sometimes, those aren’t easy words to hear. But you need to really hear them.
The best coaches in this life know when to kick you in the ass and when to hug you. Let them. It will lead to your continual development and work ethic.